UNDERSTANDING

1+1=45?? huh?? i know i cant be the only one running into this confusion equation that in a nut shell kind of defines my understanding of my current  relationship..how many times have you  argued, disagreed, or not understood, just because the perspective of your partner isnt sinking in and what could be completely diffuse in a matter of seconds escalated into a fullfledge battle where both parties are losing?? man!!!! very frustrating, but is it a bad thing? can it ruin a relationship? can it be amended?
i would love to hear from fellow bloggers about there experience and funny stories that gives you the 1+1=45?? huh??

well ill start of with mines......i had a conversation on the phone not to long ago about a "guy friend" she added onto her friends list on facebook..(yea the dreaded relationshiip killer lol just playing) anyways very casual conversation or you  could say "probing"  :) about how you know this person? where did you meet? what caught me off-guard was the fact that she came off somewhat agitated, and frustrated....i absolutely dont know why, i recall my tone and mannerism was pretty neutral and non aggressive and was asking more along the lines of curiousity rather than suspicion.
she responded by telling me with a (agitated) tone that it was some guy added her and that she accepted. she also used my friend as an example saying that "your friends who dont know me requested me which is weird".....so that kind of made sense and everything went back to normal....until

a week or two later they talked about kicking it, and that freaking pissed me off, what the hell?? how the f@%& are you talking about these so casually when you told me in the inital conversation that it was just some random guy?!?!?! 1+1=45 right?, so in her defense, she thought she mention that she new him from an aquaintance she met earlier.  okayyy! well thats fine!!! why in the heck wasent it disclose when i asked earlier?? and that my friends is the "misunderstanding, arguement, disagreement" that inspire me to write and maybe get some feedback or personal stories from past,present relationship that gives you  the 1+1=45....

i sometimes wonder if the reason she so-called "forgotten" was more of the fact that it was really nothing or if she was to tell me itll blow shit out of porportion and she possibly felt the need to shelter the additional information to spare my feelings. it kind of reminds me of a co-worker (opposite sex or not) that is cool and become friends through facebook. harmless right, so any insight or opinion would be awesome. im really new to this blog stuff and its really cool...tell next time